The one on the left or on the right?
Most of you would have said the left square is darker, and guess what? They’re both identical and it’s all about how our brains perceive information. (See bottom of newsletter for proof).
That’s why we quarrel, argue and get intensely frustrated with others – our perception loves playing tricks on us! But what can we do to reduce tension as we engage with others every day? A great idea is to learn from Brené Brown, a research professor at the University of Houston who’s spent the past ten years studying vulnerability.
Vulnerability? How does that reduce tension?
Simple – allowing ourselves the luxury of being vulnerable shows us the lies we tell ourselves everyday! Why? Being vulnerable, according to Brené’s extensive research, makes us empathize more, understand ourselves more, and ultimately understand the other person’s perspective in life.
So next time you get upset with someone, remember we all perceive life very differently which means no two humans experience the same event the same way at the same time. Being vulnerable changes your perception so you never have to lie to yourself again!
Do share your vulnerability story with me at jeff@REVinspires.me. I'll share mine with you too and we'll have a good laugh together!